My Time Magazine Interview: Talking to your kids about Snapchat

Dear Friends,

Snapchat is one of the fastest growing social media sites and one of the most popular sites for tweens and teens. Youth love it because of its “Mission Impossible” messaging system. Any photo or video sent over Snapchat will self-destruct within moments of viewing … perfect for avoiding parental detection and accountability.

Recently, Time Magazine interviewed me for parental tips on how to keep children safe on Snapchat and beyond:

At any age, says Donna Rice Hughes, president and CEO of the internet safety organization Enough is Enough, parents need to help kids understand that the digital world is very much like the real one: it has lots of good places and people-but also bad ones. Problems in the digital world arise, Rice Hughes says, because we don’t have “healthy boundaries instinctively in the digital world.”

It’s also crucial, Rice Hughes says, for parents to realize they can’t just “have that Internet safety conversation once,” because today’s kids are always online, and always finding new opportunities – for good or ill. So conversations with kids about their digital lives should start early, and continue on a weekly or even daily basis.

So from elementary age, Rice Hughes says, parents need to help kids set healthy digital boundaries. Today’s elementary students were born into a world in which “the internet has become an extension of our physical lives.” So one of the most important things to get across to them, says Rice-Hughes, is that “the internet has not always been here. We can live without it.” She encourages parents to encourage kids to unplug regularly, and to begin to use parental controls on all technology from the beginning – so that when kids are older, parental involvement in technology use – like Snapchat – just feels like a part of normal life.

(Read complete article here.)

Social media is evolving every day, and it is imperative that we keep our children safe online. We have several resources available to you on our InternetSafety101 website and YouTube channel. Also, please share this article and newsletter with family and friends as well. The digital world does not have to be a scary place with the right tools and awareness to stay safe.

Cosmo Promotes Sexting and Self Pornification

Dear Friends,
Recently, Cosmopolitan Magazine wrote a “how to” on sending the “perfect” sext. No, this isn’t a joke. You read correctly. You and I know there’s no such thing as a perfect sext. And deep down they know it, too.
They know full well that preteen and teen girls are within their demographic buying audience. They also bank on the fact that Cosmo is typically in full view of minor children, along with Time Magazine and People, and is not segregated like Playboy types of mags unavailable for browsing or sale to youth. While Cosmo continues to push the envelope on soft porn with how to articles on having titillating illicit sex etc., they really crossed the line by promoting and normalizing the dangerous activity of sexting.
What Cosmo neglects to mention is that:
  • Sexting and self pornification among youth are at crisis levels
  • 62% of teens and young adults have received a sext (Barna 2016)
  • 40% of teens and young adults have sent a sext (Barna 2016)
  • 15% of teen sexters sent texts to someone who they just met (The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, 2008)
  • 44% of teens say it is common for sexually suggestive text messages to get shared with people other than the intended recipient. (The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, 2008)
  • Nude and sexually explicit photos of anyone under the age of 17/18 years old is considered under the law to be child pornography and can lead to federal prosecution by those who produce and distribute these images. Many unsuspecting teens have found themselves on the sex offenders’ registry.
  • There are no take backs online and nothing is truly private. Reputations and lives have been ruined when sexting goes bad … when a sexted photo or video goes public and or viral. Revenge porn, sextortion, and cyberbullying are harmful consequences that lead to devastation.
Youth who are coming of age and sexually curious in a pornified culture rewards the pornographic impulse (Barna). The Cosmo article encourages self pornification and paints a picture in the minds of young men and women that it is exciting and acceptable to degrade themselves, that their worth and value are tied up in their sexuality, and that it is okay for them to lower expectations they hold for themselves and each other. That it is somehow okay for them to allow others to strip away their dignity by sending sexts.
Doesn’t Cosmo know that they are destroying the dignity of the human person? Do they even care? Well, I do, and I know you do, too.
That’s why we’re launching a #NoPerfectSext letter to the editor campaign. This campaign has one goal: to get Cosmo Magazine to stop normalizing the self-pornification practices that harm youth like sexting.
We need you to do three things:
  1. Tweet to Cosmopolitan. You can borrow this tweet: @Cosmopolitan sexting isn’t normal, & it degrades our children. It’s harmful. #NoPerfectSext.
  2. Tweet to Joanna Coles, Cosmo’s Editor-in-Chief. You can borrow this tweet: @JoannaColes, sexting isn’t normal, & it degrades our children. It’s harmful. #NoPerfectSext.
  3. Send Cosmo an e-mail at inbox@Cosmopolitan.com asking them why they think sexting is normal.
  4. Learn and share the following information about what you can do to prevent your children and grandchildren from sexting
Over the next couple of weeks you’ll hear from mothers whose daughters have been exploited by sexting and whose lives have been forever negatively impacted by sexting. There was nothing perfect about their experience, because there really is #NoPerfectSext.

30 Ways in 30 Days to Strengthen Your Family

Every parent faces a daily dilemma: How can I bring up my children to be people of character in a culture that undermines my values?

EIE advisory Board member, media and cultural expert Rebecca Hagelin knows how overwhelming it is to raise kids in today’s morally toxic environment. In her newly released book, “30 Ways in 30 Days to Strengthen Your Family,” Rebecca helps you:

  • Learn how to battle the culture, not your child
  • Know the difference between your principles and your preferences
  • Understand how marketers target your children and how to keep them safe online
  • Develop and follow your “mother’s intuition” and “father-knows-best” instincts
  • Teach your children to be good stewards of money, time, and work

This would make a great Mother’s Day gift as well. Check it out at:

Enough Is Enough Applauds Resolution Signed by Utah Governor Declaring Internet Pornography a Public Health Crisis

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

April 19, 2016

Press Statement by Donna Rice Hughes, CEO and President of Enough Is Enough

Today Marks A Historic Landmark Change to End the Way America Thinks About Pornography

Enough Is Enough Applauds Resolution Signed by Utah Governor Declaring Internet Pornography a Public Health Crisis.

GREAT FALLS, Va. – “Enough Is Enough (EIE) applauds the historic landmark resolution by the state of Utah declaring pornography a public health issue. The resolution is being signed today by Utah Gov. Gary Herbert after overwhelmingly passing the Utah Senate and House. The resolution, sponsored by Sen. Todd Weiler, (SCR9), is the first time a state has said pornography is a “public health crisis,” language often used for anti-smoking and anti-drunk driving campaigns.

“This resolution is part of a concerted effort to begin framing the issue as not merely a “moral” issue, but a social issue with enormous costs that negatively impacts individuals and societies. For over two decades, the Internet pornography industry has been able to succeed on the myth that pornography is just harmless fun.

“Noble and worthwhile causes such as these indeed often take a lifetime, as well as a strong network of devoted individuals and groups. Two years ago, under the leadership of Ernie Allen, founder of NCMEC and ICMEC, a small group of leaders, including myself, met together to brainstorm the best way to elevate Internet pornography to a public health crisis.

“However, recent peer-reviewed research and medical science is undeniable in proving that extreme Internet pornography fuels the sexual exploitation and abuse of children, violence against women, addiction in youth and adults, the breakdown of marriage, sex trafficking, and a myriad of other harms.

“Prior to this important meeting, Enough Is Enough® (EIE) has been at the forefront in the battle to prevent the sexual exploitation of children from Internet pornography and sexual predators.

“EIE launched “Project Wilberforce” to remind us that, such daunting social change as ending the Internet-enabled sexual exploitation of children and restoring a culture of dignity and respect is indeed possible. Like William Wilberforce, we have the ability to create a better world, a “beloved” community in which all people are treated with dignity and respect. The two main life goals of Wilberforce were to abolish slavery and to restore manners and decency in England. It took Wilberforce and his band of friends a lifetime to bring about such grand and revolutionary social change.

“Making the Internet safer for children and families has been a twenty-three year marathon, not a sprint.

“EIE urges other states to adopt the Utah resolution and become a leader in the movement to make the Internet safer for children and families and change the way America thinks about pornography. We stand ready to work side by side with you on this critical issue.

“Like Wilberforce said, ‘You may choose to look the other way, but you can never again say that you did not know.'”

To schedule a media interview, please contact Donna Rice Hughes at ricehughes@aol.com.

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Making the Internet safer for children and families.

www.enough.org, www.internetsafety101.org , www.friendlywifi.org

TIME Cover: Porn & Erectile Dysfunction; Alarming Study; Donna in News

Dear Friends,
Last week, I had the wonderful honor to speak at the Set Free Summit on “Parenting in a Dirty World.” Over 850 Christian leaders from around the world were in attendance to learn more about the scourge of Internet pornography and the role of faith communities to bring about solutions. Over the next few weeks, I will be sharing more insights from the Summit.
My friend and EIE Advisory Board member, Josh McDowell, who led the Set Free Summit, ended the event with “A Call to Arms.”
” We need a Wilberforce, a Mother Theresa and a Bonhoeffer in the church today who have the courage to battle the devastation of porn as they did slavery, poverty, and Nazism. May we rise up to be a part of the solution-starting with ourselves, then our families, our churches, our children’s schools, our culture.”
This is exactly what we have been doing at EIE since our founding in 1992. We launched Project Wilberforce two years ago toend the Internet-enabled sexual exploitation of children and adults and restore a culture of dignity and respect. (read more here)
The Porn Phenomenon: The Impact of Pornography in the Digital Age
                New Barna study released at last week’s Set Free Summit

 

Below are some key findings:
  • 1 out of 3 Americans seek out porn at least once a month
  • 62% of teens and young adults have “received” a nude image from someone
  • 40% of teens and young adults have “sent” a nude image
  • Teens and young adults view NOT recycling more immoral than viewing pornography.


Recently, TIME Magazine featured their cover article on the impact that online pornography is having on young men’s health.
  • Interviews with several young men were featured discussing their experience with Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED).
  • A 2014 fMRI study from the Max Planck Institute found that habitual porn use may have an effect on the brain. “The more pornography men consumed, the smaller the brain striatum, the reward center of the brain.”
  • The rise in the numbers of young men struggling with porn addiction and PIED has led to a rise with support groups, videos, and smartphone apps to bring awareness to the dangers of pornography.
Donna in the News…
Recently, I was interviewed by Mike McManus’s publication, Ethics & Religion, to discuss the TIME Magazine article, the Porn Free Wi-Fi effort and the ongoing movement to raise awareness of the destructive impacts of extreme Internet porn. Check out the article here.
Additionally, my upcoming speaking engagement at WiFiNow 2016 in Tysons Corner, Va. has been highlighted in O’Dwyer’s.  I will be speaking about how porn free Wi-Fi is possible and profitable in America. You can read more here.
Pornography’s destructive impact on intimacy, relationships and sexual health is finally gaining national media attention as a public health crisis. Will you join the movement by becoming an Enough Is Enough change agent to fuel our efforts to make the Internet safer for children and families? Below are two simple ways you can help:
  1. Follow Enough Is Enough on Facebook and  Twitter to help us continue our over 22-year successful track record!
  2. Donate now to help us continue the fight to make the Internet safer for families!

Join Us at the Set Free Summit – April 4-7, 2016!

The Set Free Summit is less than one week away. Overall, we stand in awe of those who will be in attendance:  19 countries, 750 participants from 350 different organizations and representing +615 million people. Our message will be heard by 200,000,000 people in 25 languages.

The Set Free Summit, which will take place April 4-7, 2016 in Greensboro, N.C., is a global summit that seeks to expose the impact, while providing solutions to the pervasive problem of Internet pornography.  This unique conference will discuss the true impact of Internet pornography, the neurological, psychological, cultural and spiritual implications of pornography, and providing attendees with the methods and resources for leading the fight against pornography.  This conference will inspire you to educate parents, school administrators, and church leaders about the dangers of Internet pornography.

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I am honored to be one of the speakers at the Summit, where I will be speaking on the topic, “Parenting in a Dirty World.”  This topic is especially crucial, as I will be discussing about ways to keep your children safe online.

You don’t want to miss a minute of this Summit!  There is space still available to attend the Set Free Summit.  You can register here.  I hope to see you at the Set Free Summit in Greensboro, N.C. on April 4-7, 2016!

One Solitary Life

Dear Friends,

When I was growing up, my grandmother, GG, would wrap her presents to my sister and me with the cover of a Christmas card as part of her festive wrapping.

I saved one of my favorite cards with the poem, “A Solitary Life”, and  wanted to share it with you.

In these troubled times, with terror attacks occurring regularly, riots in the streets, troubled economies and broken homes,  people are seeking answers.

I want to remind us all of the gift of the life of Jesus of Nazareth. All religions agree on one thing, and that is that Jesus was a great man and a great prophet.  Some believe as I do, that He is the Messiah and God Incarnate. Whatever your belief, I encourage you to read more about the teachings of Jesus in the Gospel accounts of his short earthly life of 33 years.

He summed up all of His teachings by instructing His followers to Love God and Love others as themselves.  If peoples of our world would practice His radical teachings, the world would indeed be a much more loving and peaceful place.

It starts with us.

Have a Blessed weekend.

Enough Is Enough is a secular bi-partisan non profit organization. Donna Rice Hughes is a committed follower of Jesus.

Backpage.com update, Silicon Valley Parent’s Advice, Porn’s link to Violence…

Dear Friends,
As we close on March, we want to keep you informed on several new developments involving keeping our children safe from online threats.

EIE Statement on Congress’s decision regarding Backpage.com

Enough Is Enough applauds the unanimous decision by the U.S. Senate last week to hold Backpage.com in contempt of Congress. It is essential that Backpage be accountable for the company’s culpability in child sex trafficking, child prostitution and other crimes. Groups like ours have been raising awareness for years about the blatant irresponsibility of Backpage to allow ads that clearly facilitate the sexual exploitation of children and women. Enough is enough!
Keeping Our Children Safe Online- Silicon Valley Parents Speak Out
Parents have been seeking help from EIE on how to prevent the exploitation of children online for the past 2 decades. Recently, The Guardian had an article examining how Silicon Valley technology executives keep their own children safe online. One parent said their first piece of advice was to train their children how to properly use social media sites, while other parents restricted which sites their child visits, while keeping tabs of their online viewing history and mobile devices.

The advice these parents gave is basic in a complex online world and is almost identical to the advice we provide on our Internet Safety 101 website and on our YouTube channel… So check it out.
European Survey Says…

A recent survey from the Journal of Interpersonal Violence studied the relationship between viewing pornography and violent and abusive behavior in young men. The findings are quite revealing, as the number of those who viewed online pornography reported being more violent in relationships and having negative attitude towards females.

“Boys’ perpetration of sexual coercion and abuse was significantly associated with regular viewing of online pornography. Viewing online pornography was also associated with a significantly increased probability of having sent sexual images/messages for boys in nearly all countries. In addition, boys who regularly watched online pornography were significantly more likely to hold negative gender attitudes.”

Internet pornography harms children and teens. Thank you for your continued support of our crucial efforts to end its grasp on young minds.

Amy and Vicky Act Update

Last year, the U.S. Senate passed the  Amy and Vicky Child Pornography Victim Restitution Improvement Act of 2015, on a vote of 98-0. While this Act made it through the U.S. Senate, the act has been set aside to die in the House Judiciary Committee. Without further legislative action, there have been frustrations voiced from the federal courts and victims of child pornography have been denied compensation for the injuries inflicted upon them. Without criminal restitution, many victims must rely on taxpayer-funded public assistance while wealthy defendants serve a few years (in any time) in a minimum security taxpayer-funded prison and return to a life of relative comfort and privilege.

Victims deserve justice – and criminals deserve stiffer penalties for the crimes committed.  Please reach out to your Congressman and urge him/her to support S.295 / H.R.595, the Amy and Vicky Child Pornography Victim Restitution Improvement Act of 2015.
Enough Is Enough on Social Media
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UT House Passes Resolution, Identity Theft, and Donna at WiFiNow 2016

Happy St. Patrick’s Day!  It is hard to believe we are already midway through March! I am writing to share with you some important news and updates on keeping our children safe online.

Utah House Passes Anti-Pornography Resolution

 

Great news from Utah! The Utah House recently passed a resolution declaring pornography a public health crisis. Now, this historic resolution is headed to Governor Gary Herbert’s desk to be signed, for the protection of children, families from the damaging effects of pornography. Hopefully, this bold action from Utah’s elected officials will inspire other state legislatures to be bold and pass similar resolutions.

Identity Theft
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The White House has declared identity theft as the fastest growing crime in America. Identity theft can happen to anyone at any age, and it is of the utmost urgency to protect yourself and your loved ones from falling victim to this crime. The Federal Trade Commission has created a one stop shop resource at its updated IdentityTheft.gov for tips on how to protect yourself from identity theft, in addition to reporting the crime and restoring your identity with a personal recovery plan if you fall victim.

Have you been Phished lately? I have, almost every day in fact. Phishing is a type of online fraud in which someone tries to trick the user into revealing valuable personal information. Please watch this short video with key tips to help keep you safe from phishing online.

Learn more about how to protect you and your loved ones online by visiting our YouTube channel to view other Internet videos and how to protect your family and children online.
Upcoming Events – WiFiNow 2016 and Set Free Summit
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April is going to be a busy month! I will be speaking at two wonderful events on protecting children online. I hope to see you at these amazing events, where you will hear tips on how to keep your children safe online and protected from the dangers of pornography.
On April 4-8, 2016, I will be speaking at my friend and EIE Advisory Board member, Josh McDowell’s Set Free Summit in Greensboro, N.C. on the topic of “Parenting in a Dirty World.” I will be speaking with Dr. Doug Weiss about how to protect children from Internet  pornography and other dangers. Please spread the word and join us. The Set Free Summit is the most comprehensive conference for Christian leaders about online pornography.

On April 19, 2016, I will also be speaking at WiFiNow USA in Tysons Corner on the topic of making public Wi-Fi safe in the U.S. Folks, it’s all about WiFi these days. Technology is always evolving and WiFi is the primary means by which we connect when mobile.

Enough Is Enough on Social Media

 

Social Media is a great way to learn more about the latest news relevant to Enough Is Enough. We are on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram, and Pinterest. Please make sure to follow us for the latest information and to stay connected in realtime.
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And finally, a gentle nudge… our work at Enough Is Enough is only possible through your financial support as we are 100% donor funded. And your donation of any amount is 100% tax deductible. Click here to learn about how you can support our mission to make the Internet safer for children and families.

Powerful Message at the Oscars, The Pursuit of “Hotness,” and Dangers Online

Happy March, everyone! I am writing to share with you how our issue of the prevention of sexual violence against women and children has been front and center this week at the Oscars and also other timely news.

Powerful Message at the Oscars

 

This year’s Oscars sheds light in both film and music on the devastation of sexual violence against women and children, and the critical importance of exposing the problem and prevention efforts. The wonderful film, Spotlight, one of my personal favorites this year, won the Oscar for best picture. I urge you to see this film. Spotlight depicts the uncovering of the allegations of abuse in the Catholic Church and the year-long cover up within Boston’s religious, legal, and government establishment. The grooming of children by Catholic Priests follows the same patterns of sexual predators who groom children online. See our video here.

Also, Lady Gaga performed a wonderful song at the Oscars, “Til it happens to you,” which exposes the pain of sexual violence happening across America, in particular … the rape of college girls on campus. At the end of Lady Gaga’s performance, dozens of young people appeared on stage with powerful messages tattooed on their arms, like “Survivor,” “It happened to me,” and “You are Loved.”

Teen Girls and Social Media:  The Secret Lives

The pursuit of “hotness” has become huge in the lives of American girls. Studies, including a report by the American Psychological Association in 2007, concludes this has “wide-ranging ramifications for girls’ health and well-being, including studies that link this pressure to sexualize on all kinds of things like rising anxiety, depression, cutting, eating disorders.”

You can read an interview with Nancy Jo Sales, author of
American Girls:  Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers, which highlights the results of her survey with teen girls and discusses boys asking girls for nude pictures, slut pages and how porn is impacting sex.  Please watch my video interview with teens discussing how porn impacted their lives and relationships.

Beware! The Hot or Not App is Back Again…

Beware! Last time I wrote to you about some of the dangers regarding the Kik App. I now want to alert you to the many dating apps attracting teens, some of which are downright creepy. ” In its heyday, Hot or Not, perhaps one of the cruelest and most entertaining websites on the Web, was the go-to site for finding out on a 1 to 10 scale whether you were a beauty or a beast in the eyes of your peers. The site inspired social media sites ranging from Facebook to Tinder, and now it’s back to cash in on the Internet dating scene. Like many of the other apps, it uses location to link you to people near you. The app’s defining feature, “Hot Lists,” reportedly gauges a person’s hotness through crowdsourced votes, just like the old website used to do. The app is supposed to update in real time, so you can find the best looking people in your vicinity….” excerpted from article.  Read more here.

Become Educated, Equipped and Empowered

 

Parents and Grandparents, please remember to have an ongoing dialogue with your kids about how they are using technology. First and foremost, establish an atmosphere of trust. Know who they are communicating with online and talk about who is safe and who is not. Review their posts and pictures with them. Make sure you are friends with them on their social media sites and that their profiles/sites are set to private. Teach them there are NO take backs and to think before they post.

Enough Is Enough is here to educate and equip you to be diligent vigilant cyberparents. Here is an entire how-to guide from our Internet Safety 101 curriculum for you to follow.Web
Join Us at Set Free Summit – April 4-7, 2016!

Attention all faith leaders, counselors and caring parents. Please join us for the Set Free Summit on April 4-8, 2016 in Greensboro, N.C., where you will hear from the leading experts to equip church leaders with the facts and emotional realities of porn’s impact on families, the church, and culture at large.
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