Teaching Elementary-Aged Children About Safe Internet Use

According to a study published in the Preventive Medicine Reports journal, young people who spend seven or more hours a day on screens are twice as likely to be diagnosed with depression and anxiety as opposed to those who only have an hour of screen time daily. With the popularity (and necessity) for mobile devices and Internet access almost everywhere, cybersecurity is a topic we should be talking more about. June is Internet Safety Month, so let’s take the time to discuss Internet safety when it comes to children.

Limit screen time:

It’s important for parents to establish boundaries with their children when it comes to being on the Internet and using various devices. In a recent study done by the National Institute of Health, studies showed that children who reported more than two hours a day of screen time scored lower on thinking and language tests. These results would likely differ if parents lowered the amount of daily screen time to only 30 minutes a day or less.

Keeping devices in a hidden location will make it easier to limit screen time, as children won’t be able to look at them in plain sight and feel tempted to use them. Try using screen time as a supplement for something else, not a reward. Using these devices as a reward might instill a need for screen time in your children, which is unhealthy and can promote bad habits.

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Discuss what’s “off limits”:

Once your children are old enough to use the Internet, it’s crucial to sit down with them and have a conversation about what is appropriate to use the Internet for and why. This discussion should be simple and clear cut so your child understands their limits. For example, sharing personal information online could be very dangerous, especially for children who don’t have the knowledge to fully understand online scams and other viruses that can affect their device.

Internet security is an important part of this discussion to have with your child. Explain why personal information is personal and should only be kept to yourself and not the rest of the Internet. There are several ways to restrict your kids from accessing the Internet so they can only play games or watch specific programs. Establish parental controls to figure out what you’d like to restrict and set that up before your child even touches the device. Be sure to repeat this process on all Internet-enabled devices. Do your research to find games or other forms of content that are educational for your kids, instead of harmful.

Teach open communication:

The most important part of Internet safety is learning to have an open line of communication with your child. If they encounter any issues or problems while using the Internet, they should come to you first for guidance and advice. Every time your child uses a device, remind them that if they have any issues or questions to come to you first. Make sure they feel comfortable coming to you if they are confused about anything they see or stumble across by accident or intentionally. This is relevant for pop-up ads, phishing emails, spammy games, etc.

Sitting down with your child and playing some games together is another positive way to use the Internet but also continue to have open communication. Games like KidsCast, Word Beach, and PBS KIDS games all have appropriate content suitable to assist in teaching kids rather than just entertaining them. The Internet can be such a fun tool as long as you still put in the effort to converse with your child and find ways to keep them stimulated and constantly learning.

As kids get older, the time spent online will naturally increase, but screen time should still be limited as research shows too much of it impacts mental and physical health. Screen time also takes valuable time away from daily outdoor activities, communication development, and several other growing experiences.

 Browse our age-based guidelines to help you start your mission to safe Internet use!

Ohio Seeking to Declare Pornography a Public Health Crisis

This week, State Representative Jena Powell (District 80) plans to introduce a resolution to declare pornography a public health crisis in Ohio.  EIE recently reached out to the Rep. Powell in support of her efforts to include Ohio among 13 other states who have already passed similar resolutions in an effort to recognize pornography’s harmful effects on individuals and society, and declare the need for education, research, prevention, and policy change, along with the enforcement of federal obscenity laws.  Here’s what she had to say:|

Why is it important to declare pornography a public health crisis in the state of Ohio?

It is critical to declare pornography a public health crisis in the state of Ohio because we need to bring awareness to the pervasiveness of this addiction in our communities. We live in a time of a pornography epidemic, where young children are exposed and addicted to pornography thus causing a myriad of problematic sexual activity, low self-esteem, contributing to emotional and physical illnesses, negatively impacting brain development, etc.

Ohio is ranked as the fourth worst state in the United States for human sex trafficking. Pornography encourages the devaluation of individuals, women, men, and children, and correlates in an increased demand for sex trafficking, prostitution, and child sexual abuse. This resolution will declare that we encourage families, churches, and businesses on a local level to promote education, prevention, research, and policy changes to confront the proliferation of pornography and human trafficking.

What are the chances of this proposed resolution passing in Ohio?

This is a very bipartisan resolution that helps individuals in the state of Ohio thrive. With the support we’ve already received, we believe that this resolution will not be set aside but will receive the attention and care that it deserves as we highlight the correlations between child pornography, human sex trafficking, and mistreatment of men, women, and children.

Why are you interested in personally taking this on in your state, especially in your first term as representative of Ohio’s 80th District? 

Families are the foundation of our society, and strong families are crucial to human flourishing. I want to see the 80th district and the state of Ohio flourish, and the crime of human sex trafficking and abuse of individuals end. Fighting to bring the evils of pornography into the light is a huge step towards eradicating human trafficking and sexual abuse in our communities. Our district is not far from the highway 70/75 interchange, which is a hotbed for sex trafficking in our state. We cannot turn a blind eye to the injustice happening in our backyard.

What advice would you give to other state leaders who might be considering proposing similar resolutions?

It is common sense that pornography be declared a public health crisis. If we want to see humanity flourish, we have to have a safe society where people can thrive. Pornography has an array of negative effects that hinder society from thriving.

How can Ohio residents show their support for the proposed resolution? 

At the end of the day, fighting pornography comes down to families, churches, businesses, and nonprofits working together to educate, prevent, and change the pornography epidemic in local communities. Ohio residents don’t have to wait for this resolution to pass to start encouraging one another to avoid the harm of pornography and promote internet safety amongst their communities.

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We are so thankful for Rep. Powell’s leadership on this most important issue on behalf of children and families, and urge all states to consider similar legislation.

Protecting Your Child Against Cyberstalkers

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 The idea of stalking is something no parent wants to consider, but something all parents should monitor. Cyberstalking is a malicious act used to harass, threaten, or follow a single individual online. Some gain access through vulnerable devices, Internet activity, or accounts; most stalkers seek to blackmail victims and exploit them for their personal information. This blackmail can include passwords, private pictures, and other sensitive data that could be used to commit identity theft. Although some may threaten to sell or leak the information, others may claim to inflict harm if you don’t follow their demands. Therefore, when it comes to protecting your children against cyberstalkers, your best defense is education. Speaking with your children about the dangers of sharing their personal information online, in-person, and through apps is the best way to cover the basics. Having this discussion regularly allows you to stay aware of your child’s online interactions and device security. For more information about identify theft and keeping your child safe online, click here.

 

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The Effects of Cyberbullying. Know the Signs and Get the Support You Need

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We’ve all heard of the physical and verbal bullying happening in schools, but cyberbullying can happen at any time. Criminals target vulnerable children who may be susceptible to regular digital harassment, and use the Internet to bully, share personally identifiable information, or exploit an individual for their information. Although our connected devices, social media accounts, and smartphones are convenient, this 24-hour connectivity makes it difficult for victims to avoid conflict and harassment. If you suspect your child is being cyberbullied, research the signs and symptoms of cyberbullying, then start a conversation with your child and their teachers. For more information and resources on cyberbullying, see Enough Is Enough’s Cyberbullying 101 section.

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We Can’t Let This Happen Again…We Really Need Your Help

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Big Tech is at it again! It’s come to our attention that language surreptitiously and strategically slipped into the NAFTA agreement threatens to derail recent victories achieved on behalf of sex trafficking survivors in both the U.S. and in our neighboring countries of Mexico and Canada!

We need your immediate support in telling your Member of Congress to please make sure this does not happen! Let’s not give immunity once again to greedy website execs looking to profit exponentially by sexually exploiting women and children for profit.
WE NEED YOUR HELP!

Bad Actors Who Knowingly Facilitate Sex Trafficking Could Once Again Get a Free Pass Unless We Do Something Fast!

The implications of U.S. Trade Representative’s inclusion of Section 230-like language into the U.S-Mexico trade agreement could deal a devastating blow to sex trafficking survivors by immunizing the bad actors – the exact opposite outcome for which many have fought so hard to achieve. We simply cannot export sex trafficking immunities to our neighboring countries.

Enough Is Enough is calling on all concerned citizens to contact their Members of Congress and ask to have removed Section 230-like language from the NAFTA agreement.
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The historic and newly-enacted FOSTA-SESTA which overwhelmingly was passed by the Senate earlier this year and signed into law prevents websites who knowingly facilitate sex trafficking to be shielded from claims filed by child trafficking victims.

We must keep the protections and legislative intent provided under FOSTA-SESTA intact. The inclusion of this language in the trade agreement would be a slap in the face to trafficking survivors, their families, law enforcement and the countless anti-trafficking advocates and organizations who have served to bring a voice to this issue and seek justice.

FOSTA-SESTA fulfills a promise by then-candidate Trump, who in 2016 signed Enough Is Enough’s Children’s Internet Safety Presidential Pledge in which he promised to advance public policies and provide law enforcement with the resources and tools needed to investigate and prosecute Internet crimes involving the sexual exploitation of children. The Pledge called out the need for Congress to amend section 230 of the CDA, which is exactly what FOSTA- SESTA accomplished.

It is evident that the inclusion of Section 230-like language is the tech lobby’s strategy to undermine the provisions of FOSTA-SESTA. The intent of key opposition was clear this past January in a statement saying: “baking Section 230 into NAFTA may be the best opportunity we have to protect it domestically.” Friends, we can’t let this happen!

For the sake of all trafficking survivors and their families, let’s not allow these underhanded attempts thwart the historic progress recently made, nor allow countless others to be victimized because this language was not retracted. We must continue to hold websites accountable for knowingly facilitating trafficking, and allow victims to seek justice. We simply will not stand for any attempt to undermine or threaten the dignity and well-being of our women and children.

Together we can fight to defend women and children. We count on your support to help Fund the Fight. Won’t you please help today by making a financial donation? Thanks so much for standing in the fight with Enough Is Enough!

Donna Rice Hughes
President & CEO
Enough Is Enough

Sexting on the rise? How it’s becoming normalized and why you should care

By Contributing Guest: Sydney Craig
Communications student at Brigham Young University

On February 27, 2018 Thsexting on the risee Washington Post came out with an article titled “One in four teens are sexting, a new study shows. Relax, researchers say, it’s mostly normal.” What is sexting exactly? Sexting is defined as “a sexually explicit image, video or message that is sent electronically” Since when is sexting, a crime considered illegal among minors in many states, deemed normal?

A study published earlier that week shows that one in four teenagers report that they’ve received a sext, and one in seven teens have sent a sext. This study, done by the Journal of the American Medical Association, deems sexting as “an emerging, and potentially normal, component of sexual behavior and development.”

Even the Washington Post published an article titled “A guide to safe sexting” merely four years ago. Articles like this one are encouraging young people to sext and make them think that it is becoming more common and accepted by their peers, however, not all of it is consensual. The research states that “12% of people reported that they had forwarded a sext without consent and 8.5% said that a sext of theirs had been forwarded without their consent”. Sending sexts without someone’s permission can lead to criminal charges.

Sexting is on the rise and the media is teaching young teens that sexting is the norm and everyone is doing it, so they should have nothing to fear. However, Dr. Englander, the director of the Massachusetts Aggression Reduction Center and a professor of psychology at Bridgewater State University has stated that young adults need to understand that “Once you send a photo you can never control it again. That does seem to strike more of a chord with kids.”

Sexting is not a game as it can lead to serious, long-lasting consequences and that is something teenagers need to understand. Currently, eight  states have declared pornography a public health crisis or risk. More states need to jump on board. How can we get the media to stop portraying sexting and pornography as acceptable and healthy parts of life? When will enough be enough?phone in hand

 

 

The case for age verification for pornography sites

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Judging by the number of emails and phone calls I am getting, around the world there is growing interest in what the UK is doing  to reduce the possibility of children being exposed to pornographic web sites.

In particular people want to know what tactics and arguments were used to get the legislation on to the statute book here in Britain.

What follows is therefore a briefing. Please feel free to add to, adapt, modify or abandon any or all of it to suit your local situation. There is no single or “correct” way. The local context will always be paramount. We all have to find our own path.

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The Aftermath of the Florida Shootings: A Generation Empowered for Change

Kathy Hatem is the Director of Communications for Enough Is Enough, a non-profit organization dedicated to Making the Internet Safer for Children and Families

Last week, schools around the country held numerous events to honor the lives of the 17 people killed at Florida’s Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in February. So often after senseless tragedies that unite our nation in a period of grief and mourning, we often found ourselves asking of the good that can possibly come out of such senseless and evil acts, and how the lives of those lost can be honored so that they did not die in vain.

In the aftermath of the shooting, we’ve  witnessed the concern written across the faces of our future generations in the aftermath of the shootings as they asked themselves, “How did we get here?”  “Why now? “Why us?” We’ve seen thousands of students take part in a 17-minute walk out in solidarity and remembrance of each of the lives lost. We’ve seen students take to the streets and to the halls of their state legislators demanding action.

As a parent of school-aged children, I am encouraged beyond measure to see students rising up to a level which our nation has not seen in decades. Our children are on a mission to be seen, heard, and understood. They want to feel safe and protected, and receive confirmation from those charged with protecting them that their lives are valued and they matter in this world.

When evil is at the root of such darkness our children see and experience day in and day out, I am reminded that it takes an act of God for them to see the potential for any good that can result from the horrific sights and sounds that embed the minds of our young generation.

Apart from school shootings, our children are witnessing or are personally exposed to: the degrading words of a cyberbully that squashes their spirits; dehumanizing acts depicted in unprecedented amounts and access to free, graphic Internet pornography (whether stumbled upon accidentally or viewed intentionally); or, the sexual exploitation resulting from revenge porn or sexts strewn across social media platforms for all to see.  

In the most volatile and challenging of times, it is a wonder that our kids can be so resilient and charged to act. At my child’s school, and at schools across the country, random acts of kindness are being encouraged as they honor the lives lost in the Florida shooting. Students are posting kind notes on the lockers of those they’ve never spoken to prior. They are asking the child who often sits alone to join them for lunch. They are picking the kid who always gets chosen last to join their team at recess.

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Our kids are so much powerful then we’ve given them credit for, myself included. When they unite, they can move mountains.  When I think of the potential impact everyday kindness efforts can have on cyberbullying, sexual exploitation, and on relationships and friendships in general, I am reminded that just perhaps, this is the good that can come out of such tragedy. With this generation leading the way and demanding better from us all, I don’t doubt for a moment that they will ever allow the lives of the 17 killed to be lost in vain.

 

**Note: You can help spread kindness and combat the online culture of cyberbullying by generating your own “Random Post of Kindness” or “Sweet Tweet” and sharing it on social media with someone you’d like to encourage!  

Talk To Your Child About Smartphone Monitoring

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 This blog was submitted by guest contributor Scott Reddler

In this digital era with widespread use of smartphones among children, it’s important for you as a parent to take usage monitoring seriously. From cyberbullying, to sexting, to predators, the online environment presents many potential dangers for children. And when you consider that 75% of children under eight make use of mobile devices like smartphones, cell phones, and tablets, you can appreciate the importance of keeping your children safe online.

Of course, you can expect that your children might be resistant to your monitoring efforts, but there are some things you can do to hopefully get them to understand why going this route is a must. What follows are, firstly, some tips to help you talk to your child about smartphone monitoring and, secondly, a look at how to actually go about monitoring usage.

Discuss Digital Safety

You should never assume that your children understand the the full extent of the potential dangerous out there with online predators, cyberbullying, and sexting. Remember that their young minds are still developing, and they will have a harder time than adults when it comes to properly assessing potential consequences for their actions. So before you start monitoring your children’s smartphones, explain to them why this policy is necessary by engaging them in a discussion about digital safety, what it means, and why it’s important.

Listen to Their Concerns

 While as the parent you need to make it known that smartphone monitoring is a must, you should also listen to your children’s concerns and validate their feelings. A two-way discussion is more likely to yield the results you want than would a one-way lecture where you simply lay down the law and tell them how it’s going to be. As you listen to their concerns, let them know that you understand where they’re going from and explain why monitoring is necessary.

Draw Up a Contract

 Before giving your children smartphones, be sure to create a smartphone contract that covers the following:

Screen-free time to keep your kids from being tethered to their smartphones;

  • School performance requirements that let them know that good grades are a requirement to gain the privilege to use their smartphones; and
  • Restricted apps that they’re not allowed to download or use.

Let them know that they must sign the contract if they are to be granted access to smartphones — and be sure to list the consequences of violating the contract so that your kids are fully aware.

How to Monitor Usage

 Fortunately, parental-control apps are plentiful, so you can browse what’s available to easily monitor your children’s smartphone usage. In order to be fully transparent, let your children know that you’ve taken the liberty to download usage-tracking apps onto their smartphones. When they know that they are being monitored, they’ll be less likely to get into trouble.

Indeed, this digital age, combined with the widespread use of smartphones among children, means that you have to pull out all of the stops to keep your kids safe. They may not fully appreciate the dangers that lurk online, but it’s your job to protect them. And smartphone monitoring is definitely one way to keep them safe.

For more tips on how to talk to your child about smartphone monitoring, check out the following infographic:

Parents Beware! Say NO To Teen Vogue’s Explicit Advice to Teens!

 

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We need you to join EIE to #SayNoToTeenVogue! 

Recently, the fashion magazine Teen Vogue crossed the line by publishing a “how-to” guide on anal sex for its young readers on it’s online site. Teen Vogue’s article   Anal Sex: What You Need to Know/How to Do it the Right Way (July 7, 2017). The article, containing numerous diagrams of both the female and male genitalia that are labeled gender-neutral as “non-prostate owners” and “prostate owners,” states, “This is anal 101, for teens, beginners, and all inquisitive folk.”

We find it irresponsible for Teen Vogue, a mainstream teen publication owned by the trusted Condé Nast, to encourage teens and tweens to explore any type of sexual activity, for that matter. Our children must never be the target of unsolicited sexual advice from a mainstream media publication, and we urge the editors to remove the article immediately, for the safety, emotional and mental well-being of our children.

Teen Vogue needs to take responsibility for content it publishes geared toward our teens, as parents should be the primary source for teaching their children about healthy sexuality.

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telling Teen Vogue to remove this article!

We need you to tell Teen Vogue to immediately remove this article from its TeenVogue.com website, and not be published in a future print version of the magazine. Please, sign the petition now which will go to the editors of Teen Vogue. Our initial goal is to reach 25,000 signatures! Be sure to forward this to your friends so we can reach our petition goal!

Also, please take a moment to view my commentary as it appeared in the Christian Post,titled, “Parents, Beware of Teen Vogue’s Sex Advice for Your Kids (July 18).

Parents, please remember to be aware of information your child is accessing, since popular magazines or websites geared towards children are not always safe. YOU are the first line of defense in protecting your children from messages and content they are receiving.

Finally, we count on and need your financial support to continue these efforts to keep children safe in the digital world. Will you donate today?

Thank you for your support in protecting the innocence of all of our children!